Is it wrong for a Christian lady to pursue a guy?

Contents:

  1. INTRODUCTION
  2. NOT EVERYONE WHO FINDS SOUGHT
  3. THE PROBLEM OF REAL MEN
  4. THE CAUSE
  5. INITIATING /= PURSUING /= LEADING
  6. LADIES TO PURSUE
  7. PURSUING, LEADING, AND SUBMISSION
  8. LOVE STORY AN ORCHESTRA

LOVE STORY—AN ORCHESTRA

With all those being written above, the bottom line is, we cannot truly know how God would execute His plans for us, and we cannot limit His ways just based on our experiences and history. We might get some clues about what He wants us to do but He is a God full of surprises. One thing is certain, God orchestrates the best love stories that we could ever have, regardless of who shall pursue.

In our pursuit to marriage, there are four things that we can do today. First is to pray. I know that beyond this confusion of who should be the one to pursue and initiate, most of us desire a beautiful marriage in the future. Pray and pray fervently about it. Ask God to guard your heart, to give you wisdom, and make you feel secure during the waiting, or even when marriage might not come for you at all.

Second is to wait. I would like to clarify that this waiting is not specifically addressed to women to just sit and wait for the guy to come. Ladies and gentlemen are to wait for God’s command if when you should start moving towards marriage. Wait for what God will reveal in you; if He wants you to patiently wait for a certain guy, or if He wants you to seek a man that He prepared, or if He wants you to remain as a single man/woman of God.

Third is to make every present time honorable to God. While we may be waiting for that season to come, where we are right now is as significant as the future. Let the present be offered to God that He is glorified the most in whatever we do. (You can read more about this on my blog post Season.)

The last thing is, do not take the pen from God’s hands and rewrite what He has written. Learn the beauty of honoring God’s will and command, and He will surely honor and bless your choice out of obedience. You’ll see that even the most brilliant story that you could imagine could never even come close to how pleasing the harmony of His heavenly orchestration of your love story can be.

Either it be like Boaz and Ruth, or Jacob and Rachel, or maybe we’d be like the Apostle Paul who spent his whole Christian life to do the work of the Lord firsthand. Whatever it is, God will always have the best life story for each of us.


I hope that this has helped you in some ways, and brought calm in your soul. I know you have a lot on your mind right now and I would very much likely to read it in the comments below.

Thank you and God bless!

4 thoughts on “Is it wrong for a Christian lady to pursue a guy?”

  1. Naging question din to sa mind ko hehehe, kung bakit parang mali sa Pilipinas pag girl yung nag-iinitiate. 😂 it turns out na na-overuse yung “husband-and-wife” principle. Thank you for this! 😊

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    1. Hello Jedi. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 🙂 Yan din yung iniisip ko before. haha ultimately, we just have to think kung magglorify ba ang God sa decidions natin. 🙂

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