Is it wrong for a Christian lady to pursue a guy?

Contents:

  1. INTRODUCTION
  2. NOT EVERYONE WHO FINDS SOUGHT
  3. THE PROBLEM OF REAL MEN
  4. THE CAUSE
  5. INITIATING /= PURSUING /= LEADING
  6. LADIES TO PURSUE
  7. PURSUING, LEADING, AND SUBMISSION
  8. LOVE STORY AN ORCHESTRA

PURSUING, LEADING, AND SUBMISSION

Didn’t their story meant that Ruth was the one leading in the kind of relationship they had?

Her intention was to be redeemed and the redeemer is always superior over the one being redeemed, just like a leader to its members. She asked Boaz to take her under his wings (Ruth 3:9), just like how we take shelter, refuge, covering and protection under God’s wings (Psalm 91:4). This is Ruth telling him “Take me under your provision, protection, and guidance. Lead over me and make me you wife.” As she pursued him, she clearly stated her submission, under the leadership of Boaz. (We can connect this to how wives should submit to their husbands but I’m not (yet) entitled to talk about that.)

Ladies can pursue someone just like guys do. But pursuing in general doesn’t only account for such feelings that are fleeting. It is not merely seeking that person because you feel lonely and you think you might be attached to that person in some ways that you refer to as, something we poorly describe, love.

The Book of Ruth is not solely a love story but a story of redemption. Not only in Ruth’s point of view as a widow and as a provider to her mother-in-law, but also to Naomi who experienced a bitter life (Ruth 1:20). Later in the book (Ruth 4:20), Naomi found joy as she was redeemed by God. The women told her “the Lord has never left you”, which made her realized that having Ruth in her side is better than having “seven sons” (Ruth 4:14-15). Naomi was redeemed just as Ruth was.

In pursuing, God must be the center in that decision, such that it will honor Him the most, and the people around us. Ruth’s main purpose for pursuing Boaz was to be redeemed not only for her, but also for Naomi. The ultimate goal for us is to completely submit our lives to God, to be able to execute what the Lord has planned in our lives. A God-centered pursuit will always lead to blessings being received, because every decision made in the center of God’s will will always be honored.

Ruth’s son in the name of Obed is the father of Jesse, and Jesse is the father of David, who is the lineage of Jesus Christ. That sowing of obedience reap in the form of the Messiah being born in her lineage. What a privilege could it be.

4 thoughts on “Is it wrong for a Christian lady to pursue a guy?”

  1. Naging question din to sa mind ko hehehe, kung bakit parang mali sa Pilipinas pag girl yung nag-iinitiate. 😂 it turns out na na-overuse yung “husband-and-wife” principle. Thank you for this! 😊

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    1. Hello Jedi. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 🙂 Yan din yung iniisip ko before. haha ultimately, we just have to think kung magglorify ba ang God sa decidions natin. 🙂

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