Is it wrong for a Christian lady to pursue a guy?

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Contents:

  1. INTRODUCTION
  2. NOT EVERYONE WHO FINDS SOUGHT
  3. THE PROBLEM OF REAL MEN
  4. THE CAUSE
  5. INITIATING /= PURSUING /= LEADING
  6. LADIES TO PURSUE
  7. PURSUING, LEADING, AND SUBMISSION
  8. LOVE STORY AN ORCHESTRA

INTRODUCTION

First thing I want to clarify that I am no preacher nor a pastor. I am simply a 22 year-old lady who has a lot of questions. You might find some statements here to be pure conjecture so I try to back them up with all the facts that I can find and can think of. Another thing is that, I have never tried to pursue a man, and in no situation to pursue a man soon, nor do I find myself being in a relationship soon. I think this is an advantage because there will be less bias. I hope and pray so.

Second, if you’re a woman/man who answers YES the moment you’ve read the title, and in no way you’d change that, if you’re strictly against for a woman to pursue, then I suggest you to stop here and not read this entire thing. If you’re a woman/man who is very confused as to why you should or should not pursue, I hope this will help you in some ways, and will not cause you to be confused all the more.

Third, I have used Ruth and Boaz’s story here more often to serve as a Biblical illustration, so you might wanna read the Book of Ruth first. While I have read a lot of commentaries, I might still be far from close to what the real situation was like. This here is how I pondered upon it, after praying for wisdom, and talking to some people (thank you if you’re reading this, you know who you are.). If a pastor or someone who had gone to Bible school or have taken Theology courses would read this, they might know how little have I known. Thus, ideas opposite to mine are very much welcome, if ever some points in the Bible are misinterpreted, or that readers might be mislead.

Lastly, I wanna clarify that dating was never mentioned in the Bible. Although we can see Jacob as an example of a man who pursued Rachel, the Bible did not label such thing as “dating”. In their times, marriage is immediate after confirmation of both parties. In our times, pursuing can be viewed as seeking a person’s confirmation, with a clarified intention, to be in a relationship called dating, a prerequisite of marriage.

4 thoughts on “Is it wrong for a Christian lady to pursue a guy?”

  1. Naging question din to sa mind ko hehehe, kung bakit parang mali sa Pilipinas pag girl yung nag-iinitiate. 😂 it turns out na na-overuse yung “husband-and-wife” principle. Thank you for this! 😊

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    1. Hello Jedi. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. 🙂 Yan din yung iniisip ko before. haha ultimately, we just have to think kung magglorify ba ang God sa decidions natin. 🙂

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