“Don’t let go too soon, but don’t hold on too long.”
Mitch Albom, Tuesdays with Morrie
Just to give you a brief idea, this book is about the author’s conversations with his sociology professor, Morrie, who is already dying due to ALS. After the news about the professor’s illness, Mitch found himself visiting the professor every Tuesday, and have a “class about life”.
In the first few chapters of the book, Mitch was explaining how his visits are like classes which he took to learn more about family, love, regrets, dying, and everything about life. What’s important and what’s not. No exams, no books for reference, just Morrie’s life experiences and wisdom to give him lessons.
I read this book one Monday, and to my surprise, I am already halfway after an hour. I am not a fast reader, and I have lots of pauses and silent moments where I ponder upon some lines and words, but I got so invested that it just got me an hour to finish halfway.
And I stopped.
I did not continue reading it because I already have a hint about the ending, and I don’t want it to happen. A part of me is saying that it won’t happen if you won’t finish reading it.
Haha. Joke’s on me.
Anyway, let me get to the things that made me realize in this book.
First is that, we should not let regret get through us, that we won’t be able to become the person we wanted to be. Regrets are only there to tell us that we were wrong before, we might not performed well, or we might have done something better. But it should not be a hindrance for us to stop right there and then. We should let those things encourage us that this time, we have to do better. Let’s do more. Let’s not stop in a place that we find comfortable to be in. Let’s chase what’s right, with a heart into it.
Second is that, what we should be chasing in this world are the things that really matter the most. Money, fame, profession, they should not be the sole purpose of waking up everyday. As what Morrie told Mitch, relationships that we have with people, the compassion, presence, and love with each other should be what we are busy tending with, instead of just waking up, go to work, go home, then sleep. We should find time to nourish our relationship with our family, friends, and also with the community.
Lastly, if you want to detach yourself from something, you must first embrace it. If you want to excuse yourself from pain, anxiety, or fear, you must be able to embrace it first. You should know what it looks like, and how it feels like, then you can fully detach yourself from it. Because you already know that this thing is fear, this thing is pain or hurting, or that thing is anxiety and depression. Than you will know how to go through it and fully detach and free yourself from it.
After reading the chapter about detachment, I continued reading the book the next Monday. I finished it with a crying heart. It’s a bit sad for me because Morrie died, which is already expected (but you know, I still have that hope that the novel won’t end that way haha).
However, what’s great about this story is that Mitch was able to build more of his relationship with Morrie. Then he started viewing life from a new perspective, from just focusing into his work and being able to eat and breathe, into a more purposeful life, with his wife and brother.
This book has made me realize so much, especially about life’s purpose. It made me think that my life is not only for me. It is also for the people around me, and for God. As Morrie tells us that we should seek more of the things that cannot be seen because the things that we see will fade away, the Bible actually says the same thing.
As a christian, I realize that my sole purpose in life is to glorify God. That’s why the things that are eternal is the ultimate thing that we should chase after, not the earthly, material things.
Because the chief end in life is to be able to live a life worth honouring to God, and live with Him forever.
If then you have been raised with Christ, seek the things that are above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God.Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God.
Colossians 3:1-3 ESV
Just in case you’ve read the book, you can share your thoughts below. Or if you have books that you want me to read, I would love to check ’em out. I’m starting to go into reading again and I hope it won’t take me from my priorities. *wink